Advice, on Dating Advice

Even the most discerning individuals seeking guidance often can’t tell the difference between the good and the bad advice.

Some of the worst dating and relationship advice comes from self-proclaimed experts and relationship gurus on social media. You’d be surprised how many people wake up one day, decide they have the answers, and start sharing their theories, perspectives, and opinions as if they’re experts in the field. Much of this advice is rooted in cynicism, conjecture, and collective illusions, rather than being based on science, education, research, academic studies, or real-life experience.

On the other hand, great advice is also out there from highly educated and experienced professionals. The challenge is that even the most discerning individuals seeking guidance often can’t tell the difference between the good and the bad advice.

I’ve worked in the love industry as a matchmaker and relationship consultant for almost seven years. During this time, I’ve had the privilege of learning from some of the biggest thought leaders in the industry, like Logan Ury, Paul Brunson, and Helen Fisher, to name a few. I’ve also had the opportunity to collaborate with top celebrity and executive matchmakers. One important lesson I’ve learned is that being married doesn’t necessarily make someone a good matchmaker, just as being single doesn’t make someone a bad one.

In my opinion, having the experience of a long-term, meaningful, and healthy relationship can be invaluable in helping others on their journey. However, natural talent and wisdom are real. Some of the most respected professionals in the industry have never been married, yet they offer profound insights. That said, I don’t agree with 100% of any one person’s ideas, and I acknowledge that there are blind spots. After all, there are some things you can’t know until you experience them yourself.