How it all started

Twenty years ago, when I was in my 30s, I was ready to get married. I knew exactly what I wanted in a wife and a lifelong partner because I had put in the effort to understand my needs. However, I found myself frustrated that I couldn’t seem to find the right woman anywhere. Having recently moved to North Carolina in 2005, I didn’t know many people in the area, which made the search even more challenging.

At 31, I had just entered the six-figure-income bracket. I owned two homes—one in Raleigh and another in Atlanta. I met the common height preference of 6 feet tall that many women look for. I had no children or "baby mama drama." I had never been married, drove a nice car, and even owned a cool motorcycle. I was in church every week, wasn’t the least attractive guy around, and despite being naturally introverted, I had plenty of confidence. On paper, I was the guy many women were searching for!

I knew there had to be other men like me out there, and I decided to find them. I figured that if I could gather a group of quality men, the quality women would naturally follow—like seagulls to a box of crackers. This sparked my initial interest in matchmaking.

Determined to connect with other quality men, I quickly realized a big challenge: while I knew how to connect with women, I had no idea how to connect with men! Approaching other men with, “Hey, are you single?” was clearly not a viable strategy.

Despite the awkwardness, I was hooked on the idea of matchmaking. I believed that by helping others find each other, I’d increase my chances of meeting quality women and eventually finding my own match. There’s so much more to the story, but that’s how it all began…